Talking About Sex

Sex has always been a difficult gray area in my life, as I grew up in a family that is rather conservative on this topic. I would have to say that there is enormous pressure on female college students to either lose their virginity the day they start college or very soon after. Its almost like we're expected to become promiscuous college coeds that dance around naked and drunk for the enjoyment of men. I'm not sure how much pressure there is on the men, as I am not one, but I'm sure its about the same amount of pressure, maybe even a little less. One doesn't usually see 'Boys Gone Wild' or anything like that.

My rules of dating are very simple and basic: respect your partner; respect yourself; respect each others privacy; be understanding and flexible; don't be controlling; give everyone an equal oppurtunity (don't think that just because your in a relationship your emotionally exclusive to that one person).

I've never been asked out by a total stranger before, so I've never really run into this issue of when to Google search them. I would probably Google search them afterwards though, because what if some detail from their Google search slipped into casual conversation? Talk about being a creeper. I usually don't like to Google search anyone though, because I find that if you pay attention to their conversation and their mannerisms you can find out plenty about them.

And some advice for those younger than me...don't date at all in high school. I never dated anyone in high school, and I found my life pretty drama-free. Boys in high school complicate things, make things far more difficult than they need to be. And girls need to remember: high school is only four years of our increasingly long life-spans. You may think you found 'The One' sophmore year and chase him all the way past senior year trying to get him to realize it, but you need to remember that there are so many more men out in the world. And actual men, not boys you run into in high school. I saw so many long-term relationships in high school crumble because of the boys immaturity and the girls want of stability to the point of over-controlling. High school is only good for short term dating, if you really need someone.

Oh and another piece of advice to girls younger than me. Either save your virginity for marriage or for someone extremely special. Don't just give it to some guy because you think everyone else is doing it. Make sure its something you really want to do with this extremely special person, or save it till marriage. Its not worth the heart-ache or drama or stress.